I'm no expert but, all these work for me.
In fact I just had a horrible day and yet I felt at peace at the end of it and excited for a new day.
Here are some tips how to get moving on with life. You only get one on this planet!
1. Do something nice for someone else.
It's true. Do good and you'll feel good. No matter how small you can always make a difference on the way someone else's day is going. So put a litle sunshine in someone else's life when your own seems unmanageable. Make someone's day when yours doesn't go your way. It's the right thing to do. For them and for YOU.
2. Control your thoughts.
My FIRST inclination was to go over and over the details of the upsetting episode and to conduct imaginary arguments. Studies show that dwelling on negative thoughts amplifies their power in your mind. In fact, some researchers suggest that a reason that more women suffer depression than men is that women are more likely to “overthink,” while men are better at distracting themselves from negative thoughts. So don't overthink or over analyze what upset you. Just recognize it did. Understand WHY it upset you. Don't make up what ifs and wonder if you should of reacted differently. What's done is done.
3. Connect with someone important to me.
I called my boyfriend. He is a wonderful listener. Supportive and encourages me to grow as a person. Sometimes all you need is someone to listen. Make sure you choose someone who is not judgemental or going to make you feel worse. Hardly makes sense right?
4. Do something you've been putting off.
Crossing things off a to-do list is empowering. Especially to anyone who is mildly OCD like me LOL. I took the time to clear my desk – not just physically removing piles of papers, but also doing the tasks that the papers represented. It can be the smallest thing. Just do something you've been putting off. Something TOTALLY not related to what's going on. You will feel better and have a sense of accomplishment. How can a day be considered bad when you've accomplished something? It simply can't.
5. Do something silly
Play with kids, goof off with a co-worker, play a practical fun lighthearted joke on a friend. LAUGH. Make someone else laugh. A good, hard belly laugh is the BEST therapy for whatever ails you emotionally.
6. Act the way you think you should feel.
Research shows that although we think that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act. So slow down. Calm down. You can't be rational and make valuable decisions when you are enraged or upset or pre-occupied. Fake it til you make it. Eventually, you WILL CALM down!
7. Ask for help.
You know the person I said to connect with? The supportive, kind, compassionate non-judgemental one? Ask them for help. Ask them what they think you should do. You don't have to listen but, you'd be surprised how someone you respect can influence they way you think. Bet you never thought of the options they suggest! There's a reason you chose THEM to go to for comfort and strength. Listen to what they have to say! If you chose them, they know you better than anyone.
8. Go to sleep early.
Everything is better in the morning. Every day is a new day. A new chance. Embrace the next day.
9. What did you learn?
MOST importantly did you learn from this?
What did you learn about the experience? About yourself?
10. SMILE
Like the song goes "Smile even when you aren't smiling inside" - smiles are contagious. Fake it til you make it!!!
Once in a while the Universe shakes the ground beneath us. It's not always a bad thing. In fact it could be the BEST thing that's ever happened to you.
EMPOWER yourself EMBRACE THE CHAOS
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